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Is Romance Unhealthy?

You stopped working out. You’re eating and drinking more. You stay up way too late. Your morning meditation has gone out the window. You have trouble concentrating at work.

You know, you’re in a new relationship.

You’re in love. You’re infatuated. Your life as a single person with a strict routine is over.

There are lots of studies that show that being in love is good for your health. It lowers stress, boosts immunity, and makes you happier. One study even found that lonely people die sooner.

But there can be drawbacks, too.

All those wine tastings, late night dinners sharing dessert, and pillow talks until sunrise can take its toll—tighter pants, bags under your eyes, slip-ups at work.

It’s amazing to meet your perfect match but could romance end up being bad for your health?

When people talk about work/life balance challenges, typically it’s the work side that is tipping the scales. I include work/life balance in my seminars and in my Advancement Strategies for Women coaching program and most of the time, I’m sharing tips on how to be more present in your personal life. But, I realize that many who are entering a new relationship can struggle with the scale tipping in the opposite direction.

So, here are three ways to make romance healthy:

  1. Get active together. Instead of the ol’ dinner and a movie date or Netflix and take-out, try a dance class, hit the gym, swim, walk or hike. Exercising together can strengthen your bond, give you more energy, and help you stick with the routine.
  2. Eat clean. Another date night idea is to establish clean eating nights. That means organic food and no alcohol. You may find that cooking healthy meals together—maybe even doing a cooking class or using one of the organic food shipping companies—and chatting sober is one of your favorite activities to do together. Savor every bite and hang on every word your partner says.
  3. Talk. Talk about work. Talk about your schedules, the routines you like (and want to keep), your likes and preferences. Letting your new partner know who you are and what you like to do at the start strengthens the relationship and eliminates misunderstandings.

Exercising, eating right, sleeping well, and keeping your professional life in the picture will keep you more in balance which is good news for your loved one, your colleagues, and your health.

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Melissa Lamson

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Melissa Lamson, Founder and President of Lamson Consulting, is an author, consultant, and speaker who accelerates the business expansion goals of today’s most successful companies by developing global mindset, refining leadership skills, and bridging cross cultural communication. More About Melissa Lamson