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Improve Your Flirting Across Cultures

Flirting can be fun and rewarding – both in the short and long term. Many people find their life partners through spontaneous flirting and others enjoy the immediate high one gets from feeling appreciated.

Contrary to what you’ve been told  flirting can be good for business. It makes people feel praised and recognized, energized and engaged, it may even lead to more long-term happiness.

But be careful, don’t over do it, especially in the workplace – it can get a little hairy at times.  However if you’re on the road, at an event, or in a specific location for business or pleasure and you see that special someone that makes your heart beat just a little bit faster, go for it and enjoy it!

Below are some tips to help you get your flirt on…

1) Hit a nearby mirror and primp a bit. Retouch, ruffle, rehydrate and take a deep breath.

2) Put away all your technology toys (phone, computer, etc). Make yourself available and accessible.

3) Make eye contact and smile. Do it with several people, not just your target flirt. It creates good energy around you and makes you even more appealing.

4) Find something in your immediate environment to talk about.

5) Make a joke with a mutual person in your environment, bartender, flight attendant, etc. And bring your target flirt in on the joke.

6) Talk about something sociable, fun, or adventurous that you’ve done or are planning to do. It beefs up your cool factor.

7) Start slow, ask the other person about themselves. A good question is: “What would you would do if you didn’t have to work and could do anything in the world you wanted to do?”

8) Don’t be too suggestive or provocative, and especially with European or Asian cultures, don’t try to clinch the deal too soon.

9) Do hint about getting together (if that’s your goal) and provide safe, open contact information (over linkedin, fb or twitter handles) to make it possible to get in contact again.

10) Don’t push to hard and don’t get mad if they don’t respond the way you want them too. Be respectful and try to enjoy the moment!

If all else fails, its good practice for the next time!

Melissa Lamson

About The Author

Melissa Lamson, Founder and President of Lamson Consulting, is an author, consultant, and speaker who accelerates the business expansion goals of today’s most successful companies by developing global mindset, refining leadership skills, and bridging cross cultural communication. More About Melissa Lamson